Hello you gorgeous clusters of stars 💫 it is SO good to be writing to you again.
This email can only mean one thing: time to catch up! Share vibes! Overshare about our personal lives! And hopefully just enjoy this corner of the internet where everyone is genuinely very lovely.
Settle down, get comfy, and let’s get into it.
April, amiright?! I feel like I flung my metaphorical doors open and let in everything she had to offer - the sunshine, the drama, the socialising, the days doing nothing except eating and playing playstation to recover from the socialising.
And although things haven’t gone perfectly, I think I’ve been doing a pretty good job at being nice to myself about things. Including the days when I haven’t been productive, or when I’ve said something awkward to a stranger, or when the world has felt overwhelming. I’ve been doing good at granting myself permission to be a limited, fallible, says-the-wrong-thing-sometimes human. And that’s huge progress for me and my recovering perfectionist of a brain. 😇
Here are some moments I caught on camera…
You know that award I asked if you wouldn’t mind voting for last month?
We only went and won it!! 😭🎉
I say we very intentionally because the award was public vote, which means your clicks made all the difference and have lead to me now owning a very shiny thing that affirms the value in how I use the internet. And the gratitude I have for that last part can’t be overstated. Thank you.
It was a beautiful night overall (Diva magazine know how to throw a party!). Bae was working (interviewing guests on the red carpet and running the social media), and I was so so proud watching her do her thing. 🥰
In other news…
We’ve had plenty of family time both sides, and this weekend we’re preparing to take Queen Gemma on a minibreak to a holiday park that’s running an adults only 00s pop themed weekender. It’s gonna be chaos. Prepare yourself for plenty of girls trip content in the next update!
Char & I got to dogsit THE most perfect sausage at the start of the month. She’s called Slim and she likes to use faces as pillows, as you can see.
Actually, this month has included a whole lot of lovely times with bae…
It feels like we’re in a beautiful groove right now. We’ve worked hard to learn how the other needs to be loved (and I’ve been working on actually allowing that kind of love into my life!) and here we are. Not everyday looks like a gay rom-com, obviously, but a fair few of them do!
On the work side of things a major highlight was getting to host my first ever awards show!
It was the New Voice Awards, recognising new and emerging talent in the TV industry. I went all-out with the swishy pink bedazzled dress, danced my way onto the stage and just had the best time vibing with the audience and seeing nominees get all happy after being given their award.
I think after so many years spent by myself, behind a screen, these opportunities where I get to connect IRL and spread some joy feel absolutely golden. Fingers crossed for more!
A few things I did that I didn’t take pictures of:
Put together an easter egg hunt for the young’uns in Char’s family which was wholesome af
Played a lot of Disney Dreamlight Valley
Watched season 2 of Harlem on Prime (would recommend if you like NY rom-coms with cute fashion and convoluted storylines, this one is basically modern day Sex in the City but black and a bit queer)
Went to a few twerk classes and loved every minute!
Popped to Manchester for work and got cookies from the bakery that Lizzo visited on her tour (Gooey’s… worth the hype).
Hbu?! How did April treat you? Tell us things!
Here's something that's been on my mind lately: life is a lot.
I think we underestimate just how much we hold up on a daily basis to keep life happening.
From keeping up with basic self care like eating meals, taking meds, doing washing...
To navigating the way we (have to) make money, pay bills, and taxes, and car repairs, and dentist appts, and on and on...
Throw in the fact that we have to make decisions about our lives pretty much all the time - where we're gonna go, what we're gonna do, who we're gonna be...
Add in the social side of things, trying to be a good friend/partner/family member, support people, show up for people, keep up with people...
It's all a LOT. And those are just the basics.
Every one of us has added layers depending on who we are, what we do, where we live, whether we have kids (!), how our brains work and the cards we've been dealt.
The fact that we manage to hold ANY of that up - even if it's at 50%, 20%, 5% some days - is fucking impressive.
The organising, the planning, the energy, the work that goes into making life happen is huge.
So the next time you're thinking of how much more you could be doing or wondering why you feel tired or overwhelmed, give yourself credit for how much you're managing every single day.
This shit is a lot.
And here you are, doing it. 💜
Transcript: Hello my loves, this One Minute Reminder is your prompt to take stock of how much you’ve grown in the last year. Maybe that’s thinking about how much better you are at something you didn’t know much about last year… Maybe that’s looking at the relationships that you’ve developed or that you’ve left behind and outgrown… Maybe that’s thinking about the mental health realisations that you’ve had and how you’re genuinely doing the work for yourself… Maybe you’ve progressed in your actual work and you haven’t properly celebrated yourself for that yet… Maybe you’ve made some tough decisions that a former version of yourself wouldn’t have been able to make… Or maybe you’ve just got through and found moments of joy and peace, or just done your best. Whatever it is, you deserve to take stock of the last year and everything you are now, in this moment, this version of you. Send some love to the version of you who existed a year agio because they were doing their best, and be fuckin g proud of the person you are today and everything that has happened since last year. I’m proud of you! Take care my loves.
That’s all for this month’s MJC-mail!
Thank you for showing up here, sharing the love and (hopefully) telling me how you’re doing too!
Extra big love to my paid subscribers 💜 not many people believe in giving back directly to creators for what they put out, and you buying me a coffee each month is a really tangible way of saying that you see what I’ve been doing all these years and you value it. So thank you!!
(And if your way of saying that is simply being here and engaging when you can, I am still massively grateful and wish you nothing but the best of things 😘)
Take the best possible care my loves, speak to you soon!
M
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Big congratulations on your DIVA award Megan! And my fingers are crossed for more in real life events for you to enjoy and brighten up with your energy adn fierceness :) I love that you are so happy in your relationship and wishing more of that for you.
For me, April was the last month of my current job, I'm preparing to (hopefully) go back to college as a mature student so I'm nervous and excited. Aiming to keep in mind that no matter what I achieve or don't I am still enough for me <3 Would love to hear if anyone else is in education rn and how it's going? (btw have done my fair share of saying awkward things to strangers recently Megan, you're not alone 😆)
The one minute reminder was so appreciated :)
I don’t think I give myself enough credit for how far I have come in a year and how proud of myself I should be! ♥️