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Sophie's avatar

For several weird life reasons (and honestly just a complete mystery to me sometimes) I’ve managed to reach the age of 38 and have zero experience with romantic relationships or sex, but man can I still relate to the desirability issues. I used to torment myself over my unrequited crushes, convinced if I was skinnier or prettier they would like me back. And yes, even with all the learning and unlearning I’ve done, it’s still SO EASY to fall into that trap. Why does it feel like a fucking act of resistance to go run errands not looking my best?! Every week it feels like I have to remind myself that I’m not here as an ornament, that my worth is not measured by how desirable other people find me. Oof. Thanks for sharing your heart again. I love to see you coming back to yourself and saying “yes! I am fire because I say so!” Keep up the good fight, you warrior goddess.

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Mika's avatar

I never quite understood why EVERY TIME after a break up I would go straight back to tinder, really seeking those likes, flirting heavily with almost every match, but still feeling bad a weird and like maybe I didn't want to be doing all of that. Seeing it all written down, and seeing all this people feeling seen, makes me feel seen and quite honestly, waayy better about myself and about going back to tinder. I got broken up with a couple of weeks ago, but this time I think I'll give erasing tinder a try. Thanks for this, insightful as fuck (as usual) 🌸

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