“The thing is Megan, you have a tendency to want to figure out how something will end as soon as it’s started, and maybe you’re not always meant to. Maybe you’re meant to be in it, and let it unfold.” My therapist gently slapped me across the face with that one a few weeks ago. She was (obviously) right -
How dare you come at me like this? ;) This one!! Oof. Yeah. I have big issues with this as well. Living through a pandemic is reeeeeal fun with these issues huh? Oh the plus side, having things fall apart on such a global scale has kinda made me see how pointless it is to try to control life. I spent so much time worrying about the future, but guess what? Never even thought to worry about a pandemic 🤦🏻♀️ And yet here we are- learning, growing, and making it through. Proud of you for doing new things and taking those little steps toward more freedom. You’ve got this!
Oooof, the pandemic points are very real Sophie!! Still unwrapping lots of lovely after-effects from the last two years! Appreciate the recognition of the baby steps and hope you're recognising yours too, we're doing great 💜
54 yo and I still do this. All the mindfulness 'Be in the moment' stuff, and I just can't. Too many things have gone wrong when I 'winged it' and just let it play out. However, there are ways to carefully be spontaneous. Boundaries are reeeeaaaaalllyy important!!!! 😂😂 Thank goodness for therapy! I'm so glad you are doing the work now, instead of years down the road. Thank you for talking about this 💜💜💜
Thanks for your openness and vulnerability. A lot of us have this personality type, which is probably what led us on the path to find you and your advice in the first place. ❤️
Oof I truly felt this one, I recently moved to London and started an intense new job and I wanted to just lift my previous life into this new one and be like - all done! Doesn’t really work like that and I just have to go with all the newness, which is terrifying but kind of the point. Appreciate you articulating this and knowing it’s not just me 💜💜💖
What a badass thing to do Vicky. You're awesome. I bet one day we'll both look back and wish we could learn all the new things again! One new thing at a time for now (I went back to my usual bakery today, didn't feel like rocking the boat 💜😂)
Life can be scary and I think that is why we tend to want to know how everything will go. But scary moments can be good…exciting…amazing even! Allow yourself a bit of those feelings every once in a while and it may get easier to enjoy those moments more. Much love to you 😘🤗
This! I'm like this in every aspect of life but it's especially hard with dating... Hard to know if I'm not interested in someone because I don't have feelings for them or if I do have feelings for them but my brain shuts it down because I think that we will probably break up after a few years anyway so what's the point? And I have these thoughts after a first date, before we're even together!
I'm like this...I need to get my bearings a little before I can explore... both in the physical realm and emotionally. I think knowing a bit about where I am makes me feel safe. I dint need to know everything. But something. I have to have a bit of a plan, then I can deviate once I start feeling more comfortable.
That's all nice and good for someone who's healthy enough to have things to enjoy. And I do see it and I understand how important this is. What about when you're super down and crushed?
How are you supposed to "be in the moment" when what you need is urgently figuring out how to get help and from where?
Sometimes what we need is figuring things out... Maybe that's where it comes from and why it stays
How dare you come at me like this? ;) This one!! Oof. Yeah. I have big issues with this as well. Living through a pandemic is reeeeeal fun with these issues huh? Oh the plus side, having things fall apart on such a global scale has kinda made me see how pointless it is to try to control life. I spent so much time worrying about the future, but guess what? Never even thought to worry about a pandemic 🤦🏻♀️ And yet here we are- learning, growing, and making it through. Proud of you for doing new things and taking those little steps toward more freedom. You’ve got this!
Oooof, the pandemic points are very real Sophie!! Still unwrapping lots of lovely after-effects from the last two years! Appreciate the recognition of the baby steps and hope you're recognising yours too, we're doing great 💜
Such an excellent post and Tiramisu cake, what IS this magic? And how can I be in it?
54 yo and I still do this. All the mindfulness 'Be in the moment' stuff, and I just can't. Too many things have gone wrong when I 'winged it' and just let it play out. However, there are ways to carefully be spontaneous. Boundaries are reeeeaaaaalllyy important!!!! 😂😂 Thank goodness for therapy! I'm so glad you are doing the work now, instead of years down the road. Thank you for talking about this 💜💜💜
Boundaried spontaneity sounds like the one! Any examples/recommendations welcome! 💜
Thanks for your openness and vulnerability. A lot of us have this personality type, which is probably what led us on the path to find you and your advice in the first place. ❤️
Oof I truly felt this one, I recently moved to London and started an intense new job and I wanted to just lift my previous life into this new one and be like - all done! Doesn’t really work like that and I just have to go with all the newness, which is terrifying but kind of the point. Appreciate you articulating this and knowing it’s not just me 💜💜💖
What a badass thing to do Vicky. You're awesome. I bet one day we'll both look back and wish we could learn all the new things again! One new thing at a time for now (I went back to my usual bakery today, didn't feel like rocking the boat 💜😂)
I need to have someone whisper this in my ear every day of my life.
Needed to hear this today, thank you ❤
https://youtu.be/NG2zyeVRcbs
This is an anthem for you (and I!), Megan - to just "be". Thank you for your words, and wisdom - sending love ❤ Heather xxx
A classic! Thank you Heather, wishing you the most gentle day possible! 💜
This is so special and true - thank you! I will try really hard to enjoy instead of worrying so much!!
You and me both Katie! 💜
Life can be scary and I think that is why we tend to want to know how everything will go. But scary moments can be good…exciting…amazing even! Allow yourself a bit of those feelings every once in a while and it may get easier to enjoy those moments more. Much love to you 😘🤗
Thank you for writing this, i felt it without quite realising this was me too! I'll hopefully go and live my life now knowing it won't be perfect ☺️
Definitely not just you!
Thanks for sharing your wisdom and your soul x
This! I'm like this in every aspect of life but it's especially hard with dating... Hard to know if I'm not interested in someone because I don't have feelings for them or if I do have feelings for them but my brain shuts it down because I think that we will probably break up after a few years anyway so what's the point? And I have these thoughts after a first date, before we're even together!
I'm like this...I need to get my bearings a little before I can explore... both in the physical realm and emotionally. I think knowing a bit about where I am makes me feel safe. I dint need to know everything. But something. I have to have a bit of a plan, then I can deviate once I start feeling more comfortable.
That's all nice and good for someone who's healthy enough to have things to enjoy. And I do see it and I understand how important this is. What about when you're super down and crushed?
How are you supposed to "be in the moment" when what you need is urgently figuring out how to get help and from where?
Sometimes what we need is figuring things out... Maybe that's where it comes from and why it stays
Possibly! Or maybe we've just experienced a lot of similar things! Either way, I'm glad you're here 💜