“If you talk about what happened, you’ll just come across as a scorned woman” “Don’t you think it’s a little insensitive to mention being single so casually? Especially when you were dating another public figure…” “You don’t have to pretend to be happy all the time, break ups are meant to hurt for a while”
I think you’ve been handling a public breakup rather well. It was a thing, it now isn’t and we all move on. You’ve shared how you feel about it, without exposing anything personal about the other person.
I thought there was beautiful integrity in your approach. I’m sorry others can’t see it that way.
This is the thing I hate most about social media, the assumption that, because you choose to share some intimate parts of your life, you should share all of it and have zero boundaries. The audacity of any stranger on the internet to ask you anything about your personal life astounds me.
I was talking to my friend Michelle about this recently and how it's hard to put boundaries in place when essentially your platform came from you sharing such intimate (and traumatic) parts of your life, but you're absolutely right, that doesn't mean it's a free-for-all and people can demand whatever they like! Thank you for the sanity check! 💜
Oh my darling, sending love to your dear true beautiful heart
Just on a local level, how others react to my relationship status is impossible to control
You’re never gonna get it ‘right’ cause it’s not what people want to hear
Generally I think we want simple narratives - “he’s a bastard”/ “she’s a bitch”/ “they’re great but we simply grew apart” etc etc.. cause it’s simple that way… and life is gloriously so much more detailed than that
And (for me anyway), it takes a long time to process all that’s come out of the end of a relationship (I’m still learning about an especially long-lasting example 8 years on…)
You’re phenomenally generous in sharing your love with us, I hope you’re wrapping up that darling little hurt one and letting her know she owes no one anything
I’m sorry you have to deal with that - both the breakup and the public nature of it. Sending you lots of love 💞. And thank you for being someone brave enough to share on a public platform - it comes with its downsides for sure, but it means we all can feel less alone when you share your authentic and honest self. Keep doing you, boo 💓.
This makes my heart break for you. What a difficult thing to face. Admittedly, I have wondered what happened… but I recognize that your business isn’t my business. And I’m grateful for the ways that you choose to share your life with the public, and I can respond to what you do share without reading too much into what you don’t.
You are a beautiful soul, and I am beyond thankful that I have the privilege to see any part of that beauty. Thank you so much for simply being you.
Totally agree with Dee, Raffy, Jo and Dinah, keep being your authentic and generous you, and take all the time you need to figure things out. You give such a great example of being honest with yourself, and thank you for sharing the thingsthat feel right for you to share❤️❤️❤️🤗
All I really want to say is you have millions of people following you and it's impossible to please them all. So, indeed, you cannot win, but neither do you have to. You do what feels right for you. You don't owe your followers anything, they don't have any right to your feelings, your story, or what you choose to do or do not post.
Good luck on figuring this part out and know you have a bunch of people who support you regardless of which parts you share!
Megan this is so beautifully written (like everything that comes from your lovely mind) and I just wanted to say thank you for continuing to share yourself with all of us. I can only imagine how difficult it can be to be perceived by millions of people, most of whom feel like they are able to give you opinions and ask personal questions about your life. You’re still making a wonderful difference in our lives. I hope you know that, at least in the case of me (since I cannot truly speak for anyone else), the difference you’re making is astronomical by sharing your humanity, your healing, and your power. A lot of us are here to just support you during this time 💕
Oh Kaitlin thank you. I definitely doubt these things too often and it really does mean something to know this. I'm grateful you're here and I'm gonna do my best to lean into this support network rather than feeling the pressure to figure it all out myself! 💜
Sending you all my love. I can't imagine how difficult that makes it. How that public element adds so many layers and dynamics that you're trying to navigate. I hope you can process it in whatever you and your soul needs. If that's talking about parts of it publicly I hope you give yourself permission to do so. If it's to keep it all private, I hope you give yourself permission and grace for that too. Whatever it is that you and you alone need to get yourself to your new version of you I hope you are able to do that. Because you deserve that❤️
Thank you Jade - that unconditional permission is exactly what I'm trying to give myself and just go wherever feels right, one bit of healing at a time! I appreciate this kindness a whole lot 💜💜
Damn it this makes me so angry. NO ONE, and I mean NO ONE needs to understand the details of your relationship but you and the other person. Not your best friend and certainly not a person on the internet who claims to be invested in your relationship. People have no damn boundaries anymore. I am simply sorry you are still hurting, and that you have to deal with this crud. Please stop listening to the internet people.... even though I am one of them... I believe in your privacy and your feelings though. I don't deserve to dive deep into your hurt for entertainment... and no one else does either. I wish peace and healing for you, Megan.
I just want to say that you are amazing. Thanks so much for what you share. I’m going through a difficult break up right now and I go back to your post about how to navigate break ups every day, sometimes more than once a day. It gives me strength. It sounds ridiculous but knowing you are going through the same, I feel a little bit less alone, even though I’m literally in the other side of the world. I am not a public figure and my ex wasn’t either and I still feel I can’t win any of this. So maybe it isn’t just you, there is no winning in heart break, just going through it and eventually coming up at the other end, hopefully a little bit wiser. I’m sorry the whole being public thing makes it feel even more difficult and tricky to navigate. I hope being public also brings in a bit of light, knowing the light you bring in the life of others, me for starters; and feeling love back. Thanks again 💜 I send you a big virtual hug.
Oh Mai this was beautiful to read. I'm so sorry that your heart is hurting, and I'm really thankful that you know you're definitely not alone! And you're right, there's no winning in break ups other than the victory of surviving and becoming the next version of ourselves - I hope you're starting to get more glimpses of that version and recognising how powerful you are for surviving this 💜
Oh Megan your best is definitely good enough. Thanks for sharing what you choose to share. I’m so sorry for your hurting heart right now. What you and your old beau had was beautiful while it lasted, and more love(s) and happiness is waiting around the bend for you in good time. Also sorry for anyone coming at you who doesn’t have the sense and kindness to respect your choices and space. ((((hugs))))
That is so much to handle and a very unfair burden put on you. I'm sorry that you have to go through all of this. As I don't use social media anymore, I could only tell from your newsletters what you were going through and see what you were happy to share here. I feel like it's so natural in this type of medium to respect your boundaries regarding what you'd like to share and how you share it. Your thoughts about people having such strong opinions on your break-up also made me think that there are somehow so many people wanting to see everyone coupling up and finding a match at any cost... I think some people get very invested in everyone having to have a partner all the time. After each break-up I've been surrounded by people feeling pitty for me for being single again, although I love being single, especially if it means not being in a relationship that's not for me... Anyway, I do have so much respect for how your handling your break-up here and I'm grateful for the thoughts you share as we all can learn a lot from them. I wish you all the best <3
Oh thank you so much Anna, I really appreciate this. And that's a great point about people wanting to see others coupled up so much that they're happy to disregard whether it's evening healthy or working for both people - I notice that a lot on social media, that any content about a couple of flooded with praise regardless of how little we know about the relationship. 💜
Blessings to you as you recover. May you cover yourself with everything that feels good. I have learned a great lesson in your grace and discretion. We are simply followers; you are your one and only leader.
Adding my voice to the choir of the previous comments. You are an amazing soul Megan, and I have SO much respect for you and the way you handle adversity in the social media space. You are wise beyond your years. I hope that you know how many of us support you and are here for you. Please continue your extreme self care and try to ignore the hurtful words of strangers.
"extreme self care" - I will absolutely try my best Michele, thank you!! Reading this comment section has been like balm for the soul (after avoiding it all weekend out of anxiety lol). Thank you. 💜
I think you’ve been handling a public breakup rather well. It was a thing, it now isn’t and we all move on. You’ve shared how you feel about it, without exposing anything personal about the other person.
I thought there was beautiful integrity in your approach. I’m sorry others can’t see it that way.
Thank you Dee - I really do appreciate that and will try to remember it when my brain is spiralling! 💜
This is the thing I hate most about social media, the assumption that, because you choose to share some intimate parts of your life, you should share all of it and have zero boundaries. The audacity of any stranger on the internet to ask you anything about your personal life astounds me.
I was talking to my friend Michelle about this recently and how it's hard to put boundaries in place when essentially your platform came from you sharing such intimate (and traumatic) parts of your life, but you're absolutely right, that doesn't mean it's a free-for-all and people can demand whatever they like! Thank you for the sanity check! 💜
Oh my darling, sending love to your dear true beautiful heart
Just on a local level, how others react to my relationship status is impossible to control
You’re never gonna get it ‘right’ cause it’s not what people want to hear
Generally I think we want simple narratives - “he’s a bastard”/ “she’s a bitch”/ “they’re great but we simply grew apart” etc etc.. cause it’s simple that way… and life is gloriously so much more detailed than that
And (for me anyway), it takes a long time to process all that’s come out of the end of a relationship (I’m still learning about an especially long-lasting example 8 years on…)
You’re phenomenally generous in sharing your love with us, I hope you’re wrapping up that darling little hurt one and letting her know she owes no one anything
I love you. "life is gloriously so much more detailed than that" - ever thought of writing a book? 💜
I’m sorry you have to deal with that - both the breakup and the public nature of it. Sending you lots of love 💞. And thank you for being someone brave enough to share on a public platform - it comes with its downsides for sure, but it means we all can feel less alone when you share your authentic and honest self. Keep doing you, boo 💓.
I appreciate that Jo! And I'm always grateful to think someone might feel less alone bc off something I've put out there, it means a lot 💜
This makes my heart break for you. What a difficult thing to face. Admittedly, I have wondered what happened… but I recognize that your business isn’t my business. And I’m grateful for the ways that you choose to share your life with the public, and I can respond to what you do share without reading too much into what you don’t.
You are a beautiful soul, and I am beyond thankful that I have the privilege to see any part of that beauty. Thank you so much for simply being you.
Owhhh Sarah. Got quite emotional reading that last bit! Thank you. I appreciate you. 💜
Totally agree with Dee, Raffy, Jo and Dinah, keep being your authentic and generous you, and take all the time you need to figure things out. You give such a great example of being honest with yourself, and thank you for sharing the thingsthat feel right for you to share❤️❤️❤️🤗
Thank you Harriet. You're right - we're all allowed as much time as it takes to process complicated things!! 💜
All I really want to say is you have millions of people following you and it's impossible to please them all. So, indeed, you cannot win, but neither do you have to. You do what feels right for you. You don't owe your followers anything, they don't have any right to your feelings, your story, or what you choose to do or do not post.
Good luck on figuring this part out and know you have a bunch of people who support you regardless of which parts you share!
Thank you Hajo. I appreciate this more than I can say. 💜💜
Megan this is so beautifully written (like everything that comes from your lovely mind) and I just wanted to say thank you for continuing to share yourself with all of us. I can only imagine how difficult it can be to be perceived by millions of people, most of whom feel like they are able to give you opinions and ask personal questions about your life. You’re still making a wonderful difference in our lives. I hope you know that, at least in the case of me (since I cannot truly speak for anyone else), the difference you’re making is astronomical by sharing your humanity, your healing, and your power. A lot of us are here to just support you during this time 💕
Oh Kaitlin thank you. I definitely doubt these things too often and it really does mean something to know this. I'm grateful you're here and I'm gonna do my best to lean into this support network rather than feeling the pressure to figure it all out myself! 💜
Sending you all my love. I can't imagine how difficult that makes it. How that public element adds so many layers and dynamics that you're trying to navigate. I hope you can process it in whatever you and your soul needs. If that's talking about parts of it publicly I hope you give yourself permission to do so. If it's to keep it all private, I hope you give yourself permission and grace for that too. Whatever it is that you and you alone need to get yourself to your new version of you I hope you are able to do that. Because you deserve that❤️
Thank you Jade - that unconditional permission is exactly what I'm trying to give myself and just go wherever feels right, one bit of healing at a time! I appreciate this kindness a whole lot 💜💜
Damn it this makes me so angry. NO ONE, and I mean NO ONE needs to understand the details of your relationship but you and the other person. Not your best friend and certainly not a person on the internet who claims to be invested in your relationship. People have no damn boundaries anymore. I am simply sorry you are still hurting, and that you have to deal with this crud. Please stop listening to the internet people.... even though I am one of them... I believe in your privacy and your feelings though. I don't deserve to dive deep into your hurt for entertainment... and no one else does either. I wish peace and healing for you, Megan.
I just want to say that you are amazing. Thanks so much for what you share. I’m going through a difficult break up right now and I go back to your post about how to navigate break ups every day, sometimes more than once a day. It gives me strength. It sounds ridiculous but knowing you are going through the same, I feel a little bit less alone, even though I’m literally in the other side of the world. I am not a public figure and my ex wasn’t either and I still feel I can’t win any of this. So maybe it isn’t just you, there is no winning in heart break, just going through it and eventually coming up at the other end, hopefully a little bit wiser. I’m sorry the whole being public thing makes it feel even more difficult and tricky to navigate. I hope being public also brings in a bit of light, knowing the light you bring in the life of others, me for starters; and feeling love back. Thanks again 💜 I send you a big virtual hug.
Oh Mai this was beautiful to read. I'm so sorry that your heart is hurting, and I'm really thankful that you know you're definitely not alone! And you're right, there's no winning in break ups other than the victory of surviving and becoming the next version of ourselves - I hope you're starting to get more glimpses of that version and recognising how powerful you are for surviving this 💜
Sending love to your dear heart xx
thanks a lot ♥♥
Sending you lots of love and positive energy ❤️❤️
Oh Megan your best is definitely good enough. Thanks for sharing what you choose to share. I’m so sorry for your hurting heart right now. What you and your old beau had was beautiful while it lasted, and more love(s) and happiness is waiting around the bend for you in good time. Also sorry for anyone coming at you who doesn’t have the sense and kindness to respect your choices and space. ((((hugs))))
Thank you Grace, truly 💜💜
That is so much to handle and a very unfair burden put on you. I'm sorry that you have to go through all of this. As I don't use social media anymore, I could only tell from your newsletters what you were going through and see what you were happy to share here. I feel like it's so natural in this type of medium to respect your boundaries regarding what you'd like to share and how you share it. Your thoughts about people having such strong opinions on your break-up also made me think that there are somehow so many people wanting to see everyone coupling up and finding a match at any cost... I think some people get very invested in everyone having to have a partner all the time. After each break-up I've been surrounded by people feeling pitty for me for being single again, although I love being single, especially if it means not being in a relationship that's not for me... Anyway, I do have so much respect for how your handling your break-up here and I'm grateful for the thoughts you share as we all can learn a lot from them. I wish you all the best <3
Oh thank you so much Anna, I really appreciate this. And that's a great point about people wanting to see others coupled up so much that they're happy to disregard whether it's evening healthy or working for both people - I notice that a lot on social media, that any content about a couple of flooded with praise regardless of how little we know about the relationship. 💜
Blessings to you as you recover. May you cover yourself with everything that feels good. I have learned a great lesson in your grace and discretion. We are simply followers; you are your one and only leader.
Adding my voice to the choir of the previous comments. You are an amazing soul Megan, and I have SO much respect for you and the way you handle adversity in the social media space. You are wise beyond your years. I hope that you know how many of us support you and are here for you. Please continue your extreme self care and try to ignore the hurtful words of strangers.
"extreme self care" - I will absolutely try my best Michele, thank you!! Reading this comment section has been like balm for the soul (after avoiding it all weekend out of anxiety lol). Thank you. 💜
I can't take credit for the phrase ;)
https://www.amazon.com/Art-Extreme-Self-Care-Transform-Month/dp/140191828X/ref=asc_df_140191828X/