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May 21, 2022Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

I'd say you're my hero, but after reading this, I'm my own damn hero! This is fire!

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May 22, 2022Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

I like doing stuff alone e.g. cinema, cafe, museum and feel pretty much totally fine in my own company. I’m keen to do a solo holiday because I’ve found that with most people, I end up doing what they want to do and then missing out on what I want to do. But it’s only really clicked, because of this blog post, that it’s relating to pleasing other people first and putting myself second all the time, even if it means not being happy. So I should probably stop that, whether it’s a solo trip or I’m with people!

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May 21, 2022Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

I do this too. I had a therapist that suggested it and I read the Artist’s Way and it tells you to go on little dates once a week. I have a child, so I go when he’s at school and I think it makes me a better mum, partner and friend because I’m meeting my own needs first. ❤️

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May 21, 2022Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

This is EXACTLY what has been happening to me, I just didn’t realize what it was!! Thank you so much for putting into words my life right now…I appreciate you immensely! ❤️ WE are Queens and I will start behaving accordingly 😘😘

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May 21, 2022Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

I love this post SO much, Megan! You remind me of Kate Winslet's character Iris in The Holiday. "You're supposed to be the leading lady of your own life, for god's sake!"

So excited for you and reclaiming your power! ENJOY!

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May 21, 2022Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

Just this morning I was wondering if were due for an email from you. It's uncanny how much you say resonates with and encourages me.

I completely learned passivity from my mom. Being introverted doesn't help either XD. But I am going to focus and bringing this main character energy and embodying myself more :D

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May 21, 2022Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

My therapist is working on this with me. I’m not doing overly well at it, to be honest. Mind you, the relationship which turned me into a side character in my life was a 16 year marriage, so it is going to take time to unpick that.

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I’m letting down a friend in need because I can cope with being seen as a bad friend if it means being a good friend to myself. It’s a first , and it’s massively confronting but I 💯 know that it’s right for me

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Love this for you! Lately I feel like I’m “falling in love” with myself. I love spending time with me! I love not having to ask someone else’s opinion! I’m getting okay with the fact that my main character self just wants to be fucking comfy and spend a lot of chill time in the house and she gets to still be a main character anyway! Thank you again for your timely and lovely words. I hope you continue to develop your self life and know you’re just as worthy of having your needs catered to as anyone else <3

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Hej Megan and all the other main-character-vibe-cuties, I'm so happy you get to enjoy all the goodness in yourself and life, after years of living a passive life. Personally I just discovered my tendency to neglect my emotional needs. In therapy we discussed that whenever I feel joyful or I enjoy doing something, I tend to tell myself that I don't deserve that. So main character vibes is definitely something I'm going for, and seeing it not as something selfish, but something which actually makes you appreciate life and the people you are with more. Especially the one person you are always with, yourself. In this sense, I am now starting this journey of self discovery and self worth. So i am even happier to see true joy expressed by so many of you in the comments. Because I know that this requires WORK BITCH, omg it's so scary to be vulnerable and open up but its so WORTH IT. Thanks everyone for sharing your thoughts! Love to read from this beautiful community :)

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I've been single for years now, happily so! Have had excellent female friends around to help keep me social and engaged lol but honestly I still was passive with them too. What are we doing today? Etc

But the lifestyle here is transient (esl teachers abroad) and I find myself alone alone now!

I've started dating myself and honestly it feels so good! I have all the time for ME and even took myself to the cinema today...lol not one other person was at the showing. I literally had the entire theatre to myself. Now that's #maincharacterenergy 😅 reading this tonight is the cherry on top of a great day 😘😘😘l love ya Megan!

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