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Apr 1, 2023Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

Happy belated birthday to Gemma! I'm in my first relationship with a woman and I completely agree with you about the male gaze. I feel like I don't have to perform anymore and I don't need to be looking any certain way. I can just authentically be me and I love it! 🥰

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Apr 1, 2023Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

Happy belated birthday to Gemma & hell yeah for double Lizzo🎊🙌🏼🙌🏼💐💐

(My birthday is on Wednesday & I'm celebrating for the first time since COVID started. Hoping to have as much fun as you & Gemma did😊)

I'm so glad you're feeling better and in a healthier place. That is absolutely beautiful. I finally passed probation on my new job which was very exciting (makes the cross country move & scary life choices seem worth it).

I am almost 8 months into a new relationship & he's caught me trying to be my "best" self constantly & has said more than once I'm not here for your "best" self, I'm just here for you.

It's really hard habit to break but I'm grateful to have the space to try.

Thank you for the update and I hope you have a wonderful April 💐💞

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Apr 1, 2023Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

Love this beam of sunshine coming through my inbox today 💖💖💖

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Apr 1, 2023Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

Spring is here! And receiving the light and warmth with joy.

Starting to try and put down roots, hold my boundaries and have been lucky enough to spend a lot of my time outside in the rain!

This week for the first time in a long time I looked in the mirror and felt beautiful.

Love 🧡🧡🧡

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Apr 1, 2023Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

Belated happy birthday to Queen Gemma!! 💜💜 So thrilling to witness all the good vibes your March held; to more of that as we’re rolling into spring!

My March was heavily work-focused, mixed in with lengthy breaks from everything to get my energy back. I’m feverishly preparing for a new month that will be focused on *me* instead. Have yourself a ravishing April, Megan ✨🤗

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Apr 1, 2023Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

I love listening to your one minute reminders, you have such a soothing voice, Megan 💕

I started a new job mid-February after a long time out due to illness. So March was very much about getting back into the workflow. Sometimes I worry about coming across as (physically) „weak“ because my health is not 100 % back yet. But I try to focus on how much I have improved the last few months. I am much more in tune with my needs and keeping boundaries than I was a year ago. I‘ve grown so much through this tough last year!

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Apr 2, 2023Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

I've been there with the balloon arch... my nieces 21st birthday last summer and it was an experience putting it together 😂 but it is quite impressive & rewarding on the other side!

I really feel so much of what you've written this month, especially about how messy & uncomfortable it can feel with conflicts in allowing ourselves the space to be human as someone with a strong sense of their values. I really struggle with this, but trying to let it be okay to not always be trying so hard to be "perfect" with it all because I am SO aware these days that perfect doesn't exist and it doesn't help anyone to be tied up in knots & feeling stuck doing nothing for fear of getting it "wrong" 💖

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Apr 1, 2023Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

Love to see Gemma being treated like the queen she is!

I really need to know where you buy clothes from, everytime I see an outfit from you I want it 😍 also if it’s depop or vinted pleeeeeeease let me know what search terms you use because I NEVER find the good stuff!

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Apr 1, 2023·edited Apr 1, 2023Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

I love it!!

Happy Belated Gemma!

my mom and I drove 3 hours to see Lizzo in Charlotte, NC last year for the first part of the Special tour and it was MAGICKAL!

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Apr 2, 2023Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

Goodness me, my darling friend, this email is as rich as my favourite fruit cake, in so many ways it’s balm for my soul… from the lime green suit (power flower) to the reminder to play (please one day could we roller skate together???)

I celebrate your delicious generosity in sharing your life and your thoughts with us xxxxx

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Apr 2, 2023Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

Love the idea of doing fun things... it always takes me back to things I used to love to do as a child. I'm recently playing, singing and dancing a lot with my friend's 18 months old son and it's bringing so much joy to my life 😍 I hope things keep going as well as in March, sounds like you had a wonderful month . All the best ❤

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Apr 1, 2023Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

WOW! You’ve had quite the month, Megan! Tremendous energy and lots of good vibes to share with all of us! So happy to read all about it. And belated birthday wishes to Queen Purple Gemma :)

I completely agree with your therapist’s advice to have fun with creativity. You’re obviously already doing that with fashion, decorating, parties and your talent events. My recommendation is- Don’t get out of that habit. Nothing wrong with being a big kid! I worked in a career for over 20 years that I enjoyed for the most part, and had some outlet for creativity. But after leaving it 14 years ago and starting my own pottery business, I get to be creative and mindful EVERY. DAY. I wouldn’t change it for anything. 😊

Almost forgot.... BIG congrats on the TV Festival awards hosting gig! You will be amazing! Wishing you all the best!

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Apr 1, 2023Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

What a lovely month it sounds like you had! My happiest of birthday wishes to Lady Gemma!! I have been navigating some good things this month (new meds are really helping) and some not so good things (my verbally abusive ex tried to contact me on yet another social platform). But I’m proud to say that instead of firing off a response negating all of his garbage talk, I simply allowed him to see the “seen” or “ read” feature and ignored him. Truly it feels better to have sent him the message that I don’t even care enough to respond versus letting him know how angry he’s made me. And behaving as though it didn’t bother me went a LONG WAY towards feeling like it didn’t bother me. It was a win! Also, I’ve finally begun to read BODY POSITIVITY!!! Took me a minute to get myself a copy of your book but as I struggle so much with being overweight, I hope it will help me cope with being in a body that is not only disabled but is also considered fat. An old friend posted on social media about her weight loss journey (she does one of those programs that uses shakes and constant workouts and goes to conferences with the group where they all work out together, etc. Good for her that it seems to work for her, but she does not have a disability and in her post she said that having been a size 22 was “traumatic.” I have mixed feelings about this (as you were talking about in your message). I know it’s difficult to live in a body that isn’t the societal ideal, but on the other hand, I’m a size 18 and I don’t think there’s anything TRAUMATIC about it. Perhaps I reserve that word for what I consider true trauma (childhood molestation, having my fiancé shoot him self in the head, you know, TRAUMA). But then I realized how I was judging her for how she felt about something and if that’s her trauma, then that’s her trauma. It’s none of my business to compare my trauma to her trauma, I just want to remember to be present for her in her journey, whatever it involves. So good for her for overcoming her trauma and good for me for not thinking my number of pounds constitutes a trauma. There is space for both. Sending 💜💜💜!

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Apr 3, 2023Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

I feel like your 1 minute reminder was written just for me! I'm also very all or nothing and cannot rest when I feel so conflicted, but you're SO right. It is not sustainable at all. Gender fluidity is a tough one for me... On days when I'm feeling feminine I'm frustrated with my short hair and baggy jeans and on days when I'm feeling masculine I want to shave my head entirely and throw away the small amount of makeup that I own. I'm trying hard to embrace that ebb and flow. It's hard when we've been trained to choose the side that our culture has assigned to us.

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Apr 2, 2023Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

Wonderfully written. I remember your stage of feeling you needed to fight for every cause and how burned out you became. I was the same then too, feeling I needed to post and share and scream about everything or people would think I was a bad ally or didn’t care enough about a cause. But honestly, there are just so many problems in the world, how can we fight them all and survive mentally. So, you are really an inspiration in how to be conscientious, but also maintain some happiness in life. So, thank you for that. Looks like you’ve had a fantastic month and I am very happy for you. You deserve all the good things. 🥰

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Apr 1, 2023Liked by Megan Jayne Crabbe

It was lovely to hear about your month Megan, it sounds like you are doing some awesome and empowering things in your work recently! Totally relate about the mixed feelings about fashion, and that it's ok for us to hold contradictions <3

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